Are You Married or Thinking of Getting Married?

If you have to beg him to let you have a child, run far, far away...trust me, you do not want to have a child with a man who does not want to be a father, he will end up resenting you and the child, this would be an unfair situation for both you and the child. Thank Allah, I never got into one like that, because when he told me "no child," I ran. Far, far away...

If you have to convert to a different religion as a condition of your marriage, run far, far away, you do not want to be a hypocrite. Converting to please a person without first learning the history and scriptures of the religion, is hypocrisy. Study it at length and ask yourself if you will keep the religion if the marriage does not last. The only reason a person should be converting to any religion is for the Love of God and their undying faith in Him. Religions are paths to God, not paths to men. If you worship a man you will always be disappointed, because he will eventually let you down, and you will also let yourself down, sooner or later. God, on the other hand, will not let you down if you convert to express your spirituality.

If your boyfriend or fiance does not defend you from people who put you down, run far, far away. You do not want to live with the frusteration of knowing that you are married to a spineless jelly fish who can't tell his own family to back off, if they are mean to you. If he can't defend you, then you don't need him.

If all he ever talks about is children, also run far, far away from him. If you marry him you will be his baby mill and you won't get the respect and attention you deserve.

If he is stingy, you also do not want to be saddled with him. A stingy man is the worst kind of family man. A stingy man is not only stingy with his money, but he is also stingy in other areas of his personality. A poor man who shares the little he has, is better than the one who has more than enough, but is a stingy one.

If you have found a good man, hold on to him for dear life. Greet him at the door with a smile when he gets off work. He is most likely tired and cranky from working hard all day, and does not need you to lay more crap on him by arguing with him about small things. If he is paying your bills and you are not sick, your life is not so hard that you can't show him appreciation and compassion after a long day at work. Sure, the kids probably wear you out, but would you really want to put them in the care of strangers every day, if you got divorced and had to go to work to feed them?

I know not everyone has the privilege of staying at home with their children, but if you do, do not underestimate this blessing! Children grow up so fast, it is a gift to be able to stay with them every day and watch them grow. If your husband is working hard so you can enjoy this blessing be grateful to him and to God.