I recently saw this neat little badge that some Muslima sisters are putting on their blogs. It says: I support all Muslima bloggers. While at first glance that sounds sweet, I have recently come upon one or two Muslima bloggers whose points-of-view I could not support all the time, so I decided against pasting it in my side bar. I wish I could say I support and agree with all of them, but I can't, so no "All Muslimah's" bloggy badge here.
I'm sorry, but marital problems with Muslim husbands does not mean Islam is bad, or that all Arabs or all Muslims are equally as bad. If that were true, then all the married couples who are not Muslims would be blissfully happy in their marriages and they would never have marital problems or get divorced. My point, all people are people, and bad marriages are a reality in all societies regardless of religion. Why else would there be a need for marriage counselors, divorce lawyers and even battered women's shelters in every town and city across the USA? If they were not needed in the non-Muslim society, they would not be in business. I know everyone's blog is a sacred space for free speech and all that. Well, this is my blog and I am using it for my freedom of speech too, by not opting to claim to support all Muslimahs and the dirty laundry a few of them reveal online about their marital problems. That's what marriage counselors, personal therapists, divorce lawyers, and in extreme cases, women's shelters, are for.
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I just have so many things to do for our impending move. Technically we have until July 5 to finish the switch, but I want to get it over with as soon as possible. I don't know how long we will be offline. It could be a relatively short time, but it could also be a while. We just don't like the geography of our current apartment complex that much. I'm going to miss all you girls until we get back online.
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I agree with you to some extent, but I can understand why some sisters may have negative vibes about Islam when their marriages go sour. The US (a majority non-Muslim country) is the divorce capital of the world, so I agree that generalizations about Islam and Muslims have no merit. But when a woman has, for example, converted to Islam FOR her boyfriend (so that she can marry him) and then he begins to cause problems in the relationship, the woman may try to find anything to blame the problems on. You know what I mean? I think ultimately, Muslim men who marry non-Muslim women or reverts to Islam need to make good choices and be good to their wives. BUT, on the same token, women who want to marry Muslim men also need to try to understand Islam and what it's about before they decide to spend the rest of their life with a Muslim man.
But, I do understand why you don't want the badge. :) I'll miss you during your temporary absence.
That's another point. Some women convert for the purpose of marrying, without learning about it in-depth first, and this is the wrong reason for converting. Converting to any religion for another person is hypocrisy. If they converted to please a person, or their family, or whomever, it means they are worshipping those people instead of God.
People let us down, we even let ourselves down, but God does not let us down...
Good luck with your move!! I hope it goes smoothly!!
Happy moving!
hi hajjar omg wat u sed is so true! good luck with ur move i hope it goes well!
Salaamz sis how are you? Insha'allah your well... I love your post I could not have said it better myself.And sometimes when we point the finger at others or thing to blame we should also look at ourself's first.I really love the post.I hope ur not g0ne for to long sis I enjoy our convo's even though is dark here and light there and PM here and AM there hehehehe take care sis , miss you salaamz
That was so true.
actually when I was reading through some of your other posts and realized that you were married to a Muslim man and got divorced I was amazed to see you had no bad feelings about the religion, many would actually feel that way! I thought to myself if this had happened to someone else she would have probably had a different view about Islam, but as you rightly said the reason for conversion should be the religion itself and the pleasing the Lord NOT a man.
Good luck with your move
Hope your move goes / went well -- oh - what a pain it is - I know! LOL
Looking forward to seeing you when you get back on line!
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